I can be the world’s worst procrastinator; however, I much prefer the “get it done now so I don’t have to do it later” philosophy. Nine times out of ten, I’ll do the chore (or whatever) just to get it out of the way so I can get to the fun stuff (like planning my week, or writing my blog post).
My husband, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. He will put things off until I get fed up and do the stuff for him. His system works quite beautifully actually, and it works every time. I can ask him to clean the kitchen until I’m blue in the face, and it’ll never get done until I get up and do it. If he does actually “clean the kitchen” he’ll end up just doing the dishes and leave the mess on the stove and the spilled rice on the floor.
How can you do something so half-assed? To me, cleaning the kitchen means cleaning the dishes, wiping down the counters and stove and vacuuming the floor. Doing the laundry means washing, drying and putting away the laundry, not just washing, drying it and leaving it in the basket (sorry Julie… lol). If I’m going to do something, I might as well get it all done at once. I hate leaving things unfinished. I just can’t do it.
When Greg (my hubby) was working, I had a system. Everything was clean and tidy and I was able keep up on everything. Then he got injured and is now stuck at home, and he has officially screwed up my entire schedule. I haven’t been able to make a new one because I’ve been too busy writing in an effort to pay the bills.
I really miss my system.
This post wasn’t supposed to be a rant about how my husband doesn’t do anything, because that’s really the furthest from the truth. He does try to help out and he doesn’t get overly pissed off when I nag him and I love him dearly for that. The point I’m trying to make in this post is that we have two completely different understandings of chores. I see washing the dishes, vacuuming the floor, and wiping down the counters as one chore: Cleaning the kitchen. Greg sees them all as individual chores (I should have prefaced this by saying we both have ADHD, although Greg has it much worse than I do). Because of his wicked short attention span, his mind breaks up what I see as one big chore into little chores, and that’s how he completes them. His brain sees everything in steps. So laundry looks like this to him:
- Step one: wash the clothes.
- Step two: dry the clothes.
- Step three: put clothes away (optional).
I see all of those “steps” as one task: doing the laundry. It’s the same thing with cleaning the kitchen, or any other chore. It’s all about perception. My perception of how to do something is completely different from Greg’s perception of how to do something. I don’t think many people realize that and I know not enough people realize it.
If I didn’t understand that we both perceive chores (and everything else) differently, Greg and I would be constantly fighting. However, he and I never fight (knock on wood). Honest, we never fight. Sure I get irritated, but we never argue with each other. I think if more people understood that we all perceive things differently, they’d be less likely to argue and fight. We’d certainly be more understanding.
But this post was supposed to be about procrastination. Oh, well, I’ll finish it later.